You see the pattern.
You're brave enough to want something different.
"She's helped me really understand my triggers and where some of my patterns come from, which has been huge for both my career growth and my personal life." — RS
"Working with Em has truly changed my life. She's helped me see patterns I didn't even realize were holding me back." — MC
"Emily creates a space that feels safe, grounded, and non-judgmental. She has a way of asking the right questions that gently challenge you while still making you feel supported." — IR
I help women understand how they're wired and loosen the patterns that keep pulling them back, drawing on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, mindfulness, feminist theory, Human Design, and a whole kaleidoscope of other lenses.
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Who this is for:
You've read the books, done the therapy, and your body still reacts before your brain catches up.
You could write the essay yourself on what's wrong. Knowing hasn't been enough.
Different person, different boss, different room. Same dynamic.
You give everyone else more grace than you give yourself for still being affected by it.
Other people can see the pattern. So can you. Seeing it hasn't been enough.
Catch the Hook:
Catch the Hook™ is my five-part method for breaking the pull back to what triggers you: the relationship, the boss, the job, the old story. You already know the pattern, so we work on the moment it fires.
Catch the Hook. Find the first signal in your body, before the text gets sent or the yes comes out.
Lay the Coal Down. Stay with the urge without acting on it, long enough for it to crest and pass.
Energy Goes Where You Point It. Move your attention somewhere you chose ahead of time.
Advocate for the Non-Negotiable. Say the true thing, in words we've practiced out loud.
Redirect to Self. Ask what you need right now, and give it to yourself.
How we work together
12 weeks of 1:1 coaching
Before we start: a personalized Human Design guide, a detailed PDF in plain language, so we both know how you're wired.
Weekly sessions: one hour over video. We start from the most recent time the hook fired and slow it down. I'm tracking what your chart says, what your body is doing while you talk, and where the hook is still live underneath what you're saying. Then we practice the new response while it still feels real.
Between sessions: when a hook fires in real life, send me a short hook report by voice memo or text. I respond within 48 hours. You'll also track your hooks on a simple log, so you can watch the catch come earlier.
After every session: a written recap in your own words, one practice built for how you're wired, and resources matched to what came up. My job is making sure you don't lose it by Tuesday.
Investment
12-week coaching: $3000
Single session (for past clients): $225
Alongside therapy
Many of my clients have done therapy or are in it now, and this work fits beside it. Therapy is a good place to understand where a pattern comes from and heal what's underneath. Catch the Hook™ is practice for the ninety seconds after it fires: a text from someone you're supposed to be done with, an email from a boss who still runs your nervous system.
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FAQ
Is this just for relationship stuff? No. Ex, boss, parent, job: the hook works the same way. Most people start with one area and find the same pattern everywhere else once they can name it.
How is this different from getting over it? Getting over it assumes time does the work. You can be fully aware of a pattern and still be caught in it, so we work on the mechanism directly.
Do I need to be out of the situation first? No. Most people start mid-breakup, mid-job-search, or still working for the boss who triggers them. The method works wherever you are.
How long does this take? Most clients work with me for 12 weeks. Some continue month to month after that.
Do I need to know Human Design? No. Your guide explains everything in plain language, and we use it only where it helps.
Is this therapy? No. Catch the Hook™ is coaching, built on REBT and mindfulness-based practices. It doesn't diagnose or treat. If something comes up that needs clinical support, I'll help you find the right referral alongside our work.
Will this help me find love? It might. Most women come to me wanting love, and we start with what you were taught about it: the conditioning, the unequal load you carried, the script you followed without choosing it. Clients often find their next relationship looks different because they do. I can't promise you a partner. I can promise you'll show up as yourself in the next one.
Can't I just ask AI? You can, and it's great for information. You probably already have plenty of that. What it can't do is notice your voice drop when you say "it's fine," remember what you told me three weeks ago, or catch you when you start talking your way around something you already know. I've lived this pattern myself and found my way back. When the pull hits on a Thursday night, you send it to a person who knows your story, and I answer.
Book a call:
Tell me where you are and what brought you here. Include a few times over the next two weeks that work for a video chat, and I'll send you a link and a short application.
📅 Book a free intro call
Not ready yet?
20 in Your Design: a focused written read on the one thing you're stuck on, seen through your Human Design chart. $55, back to you in 3–5 business days.
Courses: self-paced tools for co-parenting and anxious dating.
💌 Love Letters: my essays on Substack.