Hi Stunning Woman,
Your energy is precious. And yet, so often, we give it away—silently, unconsciously, and sometimes even joyfully—because we’ve been trained to prioritize everyone else’s needs over our own. As women, we’ve learned to accommodate, to absorb, to smooth over, and to minimize ourselves in the process.
I remember a time when I was hosting a gathering at my home. I spent days preparing, worrying if everyone would feel comfortable, making sure everyone had what they needed. I barely noticed how exhausted I was becoming. By the time guests arrived, I was drained, tense, and anxious. My chest felt tight, my shoulders heavy, and my mind raced. And even though the night went well, I realized afterward that I had given away nearly all my energy trying to keep everyone else happy. My voice, my joy, and even my presence had been siphoned off.
That experience highlighted something crucial: when we unconsciously give our energy away, our bodies often react first. We feel tightness in the chest, a knot in the stomach, shallow breathing, or even an irritability we can’t quite explain. These are visceral, reflexive signals—your nervous system saying, something is off. Your energy is leaving you.
Becoming self-aware of these signals is the first step in reclaiming your energy. Pause. Notice: what does my body feel like when I’m overextending, people-pleasing, or ignoring my own needs? Where is tension showing up? What emotions are bubbling beneath the surface? Simply acknowledging these sensations begins the process of taking your power back.
Reclaiming your energy isn’t about being selfish—it’s about remembering that you are a vital part of every relationship, conversation, and space you inhabit. Your energy matters, your presence matters, and your needs matter.
✨ This week’s practice: Notice and Reclaim
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Scan Your Body:
Throughout your day, check in with your body. Notice tightness, heaviness, shallow breathing, or fatigue. Ask yourself: Am I giving away energy unconsciously? -
Set Micro-Boundaries:
Say no to small things that don’t serve you or create unnecessary drain. Protect your energy without apology, even if this feels awkward or not "right" at first. We are re-conditioning our nervous systems here. -
Redirect Your Energy:
Choose one area where you can reinvest your energy intentionally—into a passion, a self-care ritual, or a relationship that lifts you up. What makes you feel expanded and free, even if it seems minor? -
Feel the Shift:
Notice how your body responds when you claim your energy. Relaxation, clarity, lightness, or even a subtle sense of strength are all signs your nervous system is learning to preserve your power.
🖊️ Journaling Prompts:
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What visceral signals does my body give when I overextend or people-please?
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How do I feel in my body when I set boundaries and reclaim my energy?
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What small action can I take this week to honor my body’s signals and protect my power?
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Which areas of my life need conscious, intentional energy investment?
This is a love letter to you, learning that your energy is yours to steward. You are remembering that protecting your presence, your voice, and your boundaries is not selfish—it’s essential. Each time you reclaim your energy, you reclaim your power.
đź’ś Em
P.S. If this letter resonated, and you’re ready to take this work deeper, my course Anger to Power: Transform Your Emotions, Reclaim Your Voice will guide you through transforming frustration and overwhelm into clarity, confidence, and self-expression.
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